Agreed. I'm sick of people who spout off about the ease of their success - how they managed to do [insert expensive, time consuming, awesome life goal] - and are critical of others who can't seem to do the same without considering they didn't have the obstacles others do. Yeah, of course it was easier for you to get there. You didn't have to worry about paying bills, or keeping your car running, or where your next meal is coming from. Also there are layers of racism and sexism and old-school politics at play which hinder progress.

If you grew up with two parents who provided you with everything and you didn't have to work through high school and college to help support your education and, sometimes your household, you are lucky AF. Some of us grew up in poverty and chaos. Every paycheck we earned didn't go towards whatever we wanted to spend it on. Some of us were paying the water bill or buying groceries for the household every week before getting out of high school. I can only imagine where I would be in my life had I not been raised in neglect, abuse, and poverty. I've busted my hump to get where I'm at, but man it would have been so much easier had my parents not been negligent monsters, had they provided more stability, given encouragement instead of being dismissed and discredited, had I not needed to worry about where my next meal was coming from or if the power would stay on.

We cannot completely blame our sh*tty circumstances, but the situation you start out from sure does make a difference. Easier to win the race when you are up front, well-rested, well-fed, and prepared, you know?

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