and then brand us ‘nags’ when we repeatedly expose the fact they are not doing their fair share…even when we, (expected to), ask nicely. I shouldn’t have to ask you nicely to do this or that multiple times. I’m not your mom (though she shouldn’t have had to ask you to do things multiple times either). It is called pulling your own weight, doing your own share. Have a little sense of situational awareness. Did you make a mess? Great, clean it up. Did you change the kids' diaper and watch them while your wife/girlfriend took a shower? Awesome, it’s called parenthood, not babysitting, in case you made the mistake of calling it that. You don’t need the mother of your child to praise you excessively for it. Also, it isn’t helping out. You’re shouldering your share of the same responsibility and care over your mutually created offspring. She does many of these tasks too, statistically, more often, even when she too works a job. Did you come home and flop onto the couch while your partner, who too worked a full day, immediately went to making a meal and cleaning the kitchen? Wow. Why do you think you are entitled to sit down and decompress from the day while someone else cooks and cleans and tends to the kids? It is cutting into her time to relax too. How about you shoulder more of that responsibility…it will make your relationship better/healthier.