Both parties working 40+ hours, come home — wife/girlfriend cleans (doing laundry, dishes, taking out the trash, etc.), tends to kids, makes a meal while the hubs hops onto his Xbox and games for several hours. I’ve known marriages/relationships to end over this sort of double-standard mindset; the assumption the woman in the relationship should tend to the household stuff even when she works just as many hours and pays an equal share of bills.

To the guys who are guilty of doing this — who are apparently not situationally aware — please, turn off the computer, tv, or game console, and do something (take out the trash, empty the dishwasher, take over the cooking and tell your partner to relax for a few minutes). Do this often, and do it without being asked. Do it because we’re not your mom. Do it because we don’t want to be branded as a nag when we’re just asking you to do something we would do, but shouldn’t have to always do. We shouldn’t have to ask you to watch the kids. They are your kids. We shouldn’t have to ask you to put clothes away — some of those are yours. Thank your partner you. Tell them you appreciate all the things they do around the house. I promise you, it’ll make your domestic situation better in the long run if you take your partner’s needs into consideration.

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