Heaven forbid we be branded a nag for simply asking for someone else in the household to share the burden of carrying their fair part of the load…It is the go-to after all. Ladies are no longer the cool girl when we become some version of their man’s mother, telling them what they need to do (since they can’t seem to intuit the dishwasher should be emptied or the clothing in the washer should get moved over or a meal needs to get made). We’re the horrible shrew who dares to expect our invisible workload to be appreciated and sometimes be taken on by someone else. But (generally) guys are never put in the position to have to think of the everyday needs of running a household. They’ve got their girlfriend or wife for that. Even households where the girlfriend or wife earns more, statistically she’ll be the one who disproportionately takes on a higher percentage of the housework and childcare. And don’t get me started on the wrongness of statements like “Let’s help mom [insert task]…” when getting the kids involved. You are not helping mom do anything. You are doing your part, your share. because everyone is part of the household and adds to the cost, mess, and grind — not just mom.

No. I don’t want to be a nag. But I also don’t want to have to go around mothering another grown person who can’t seem to clean up after himself. You make the mess, clean it up. You take the heavy box out of the closet and leave it sitting in the hallway for 3 days. PUT it away instead of watching me trip over it. Don’t leave it there for me to do. Or for me to have to tell you (ever so sweetly, because we’re told we have to do it nicely else we’re a bitch) to please, with f*ing sugar on top, put your box away.

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