… appointment where the male doctor asked if I was “sure” I didn’t want to have “a bunch more” kids. I am lucky that I had access to that option, I am lucky to have good insurance coverage. I no longer have to worry about whether my rights will be trampled by the idea of a future maybe-baby.
Hope they properly cauterized the tubes instead of binding them. Some doctors will agree to do the tubal ligation but refuse to burn them. This increases the failure rate, and surprise, two years later a friend had a very unpleasant very unplanned pregnancy. She was enraged and went after the doctor, even though she ended up having a miscarriage. Had her tubes removed a 2nd time and got a contrast X-ray of her uterus and tubes to confirm it. So, see, they can still get you with their technicalities. She just wanted them burned the first time around but he had been the 7th doctor she’d seen in 3 month who finally agreed to even do it. You know what kind of bs hoops a woman endures when she’s looking for long term pregnancy prevention. The lectures, the dismissal of her wants and wishes not to have kids, the judgement. When she asked about burning them, the doctor claimed they didn’t burn them in “this state” which was a lie. He just didn’t want to. I think it’s criminal when doctors obfuscate medical or legal facts in order to refuse doing something instead of being straight with the patient. Put her through avoidable hell because of his preferences. Pretended to be an ally. There was some debate as to whether he intended to sabotage her tubal like a pregnancy time bomb, but that was hard to prove.