I can understand needing to unwind and having something to vent your stress into. But I’ve known grown men who have lost their jobs, their girlfriends and or wives to their persistent gameplay. Noting, I’m not digging on the game per se, just the behavior of dropping all other responsibilities in order to play to the point where you are addicted to the disconnect.
Imagine coming home after a long day of work to find him on his computer, again, playing the same game, again; the house is in the same state it was when you left. Short of feeding himself and relieving himself in a Gatorade bottle — oh yeah, I’ve seen it — because he didn’t want to run to the bathroom, he didn’t do anything all day but play. You had to pick the kids up from daycare or school because he couldn’t be bothered to. You can’t leave the kids home with him during the day because he will be too distracted to pay attention to what they are doing or be unfairly cold when they ask if he will spend time with them. Can’t ask him to take out the trash, go to the grocery, make a meal, wash dishes or laundry because none of it will get done. And he’ll just call you a nag when you point out the fact that he’s done nothing all day. Now, I’m not blaming the game, I’m blaming the behavior. I knew someone personally who spent a year playing Call of Duty on a daily basis to the point where he refused to keep a job, couldn’t keep house and lost his girlfriend because she got fed up with his bullsh*t. At first, she rationalized that he was likely depressed and was trying to help him work through it. But when she would bring up trying to find help and tried to reach out to give him support, he treated her like absolute sh*t. So I don’t blame her for leaving him. No. Gaming itself isn’t the problem. But it is easier to blame the game than the person playing it. We think, if only we get rid of the damn game and go all Office Space on the console, he’ll get better, and get back to doing the things he is supposed to do and be how he used to be (attentive, loving, affectionate, hardworking, etc.). When we dare suggest he is addicted or perhaps depressed, he doesn’t want to hear it.