I completely agree. If he isn’t willing to include you in his will, especially after 20 years, do NOT marry this guy. While I respect his desire to want to make sure his adult kids are cared for, what about you? He seems to be overlooking the fact that you two have built a life together these last two decades. It is kinda selfish of him to overlook you. I’m guessing you have provided for him in the event he outlives you.

Sidebar — what about in the event he is in an accident? Are you listed on any sort of paperwork there? If not, the hospital, for example, could deny you access to him in favor of a blood relative/next of kin. Which means, if he were to fall into a coma, you’d have to get one of his kids to give you permission to see him.

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