I think, overall, you described this experience very well. We all have to ‘assume the worst’ because we’ve been conditioned to do so. We’ve all endured some situation where it chipped away at our sense of self and safety. Then we get some guy, who thinks he’s just being nice, yelling at us and trying to get into our personal space, while we’re heading to work or home, thinking he is flattering us. Nope. All you are doing is calling me out to your presence and making me want to flee. You want to know where I just came from and where I’m going? If you are a nice, innocent guy with good intentions — do you see the red flags in those questions? Likely not. Because you’ve never been afraid to answer those types of questions to a stranger. You aren’t worried they’ll follow you home and try to rape or kill you. And yet you think we’re uptight because we don’t want to answer. Nope, we’re just trying to stay alive, and trying to best assess the situation.

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