I think you captured and articulated the misperceptions culture has surrounding being “kind” very well. I like to think I am a kind and fair person. However, I’ve had people take my kindness as a sign of weakness or simpleness. Nope. I have known men, for example, who thought a kind woman was one who agreed with everything they believed and liked. Like a robot. But the moment you voice a differing point of view, we’re suddenly mean. I’ve been told my being passionate about and expressing the injustice of something (happening specifically to a woman) made the menfolk I knew uncomfortable. They would prefer I sit TF down and shut TF up. Instead of voicing how there is something grossly amiss when it comes to the blatant indignities women endure. We’re expected to suck it up and put up with more than our share. And we have been bound, for far too long, to a double-standard. It isn’t ‘ladylike’ to be assertive or confident. If we do, we get branded as shrews or bitchy. If we say, “No, thank you,” to a drink invite or for a phone number, we’re threatened or verbally barraged with insults.

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