I went through something similar to this as I was expected to “supplement” family members who were financially struggling for one reason or another. I did this for many many years and it made it really hard for me to make decisions when it came to continuing in my education or switching jobs because I had to constantly consider the needs of my relatives in the equation. For example, I ended up working full time when I went to college (which I also had to pay for myself). I’ve also worked multiple jobs in order to support family. My sacrifices made it possible for some of them to grow in their own success. Unfortunately, I ended up getting burned on the arrangement. Some people will take advantage of your kindness and push for more instead of appreciating the fact that someone is going without or postponing their own personal or professional growth in order to help. When it came time for me to cut back and hand that responsibility back to those I had been helping, as they were now able to aid in support of others and making better incomes, I was met with a lot of hostility and entitlement.

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