… brother and his kids. But if I suggest he ask Levi or Tegan to help him, he insists it must be me. “I can’t burden them,” he has told me again and again. “They have kids. They’re busy.… brother and his kids. But if I suggest he ask Levi or Tegan to help him, he insists it must be me. “I can’t burden them,” he has told me again and again. “They have kids. They’re busy.”
Is he going to feel the same way if/when he might need elder care? Is he going to insist you and you alone be the one encumbered with the sole responsibility of worrying over him, because everyone else is busy with kids?
I'm sorry to say, but his view on your lifestyle is really sexist, antiquated, and narrow-minded. Just because you don't have kids does not mean you are any less busy or tasked than anyone else. Your siblings opted to have children. It was their choice. I don't have any myself, but my SO does. They are in college now. I was around when they were in middle school. I watched, and at times experienced much of the good and the bad of he and his ex co parenting their kids. It was brutal at times, exhausting, frustrating. Others, it was great. Still didn't change my stance on having kids though. I don't regret it. There is no way I could have made the same sacrifices my SO and his ex wife did. I don't necessarily agree with every parenting decision they made. But that isn't really the point. Point is, we still worked jobs and met our respective equal measure of responsibilities whether we had kids or not.