It is very common for women to take on more of the emotional and physical load of the “household needs.” Statistically, relationships have a longer lifespan when both parties participate in household stuff and errands — regardless of traditional gender roles.

I agree with the “help me” statement. Instead, my partner will say, “what can I do” when I am in the midst of 5 tasks at the same time. I think “what can I do” is a much better response than “how can I help you.” How can I help you seems to imply these tasks are your burden and he’s just being a nice guy offering to pitch in.

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