It should still feel unfair. I’m so disappointed with the excessively large number of men who, while they’ll father a child, are not fathers. They just leave the mother-to-be in the lurch the moment things ‘get real’ or remotely ‘unpleasant’ or ‘hard.’ They leave her to not only give birth and deal with the costs and care of raising the child as a single parent but sometimes have the gall to return years later now that “they are ready” to be a father. Gee. How nice for him (the general guy who floats back in). He got to take some time away to figure out what he wanted while you (the mother) dealt with the emotional labor and physical realities of raising a child until he decided it was time to swing back into your life and make it hell all over again. Or the guy remains gone and refuses to even offer the smallest of concessions on financially contributing to and taking responsibility. Granted, I’m speaking generally here, but it happens. There is no longer the same stigma with men who walk away, guilt-free from a woman who is pregnant with their child. Now, it is so commonplace, we (as a society) just shrug in disgust and move on.