It sounds ugly and manipulative to me. Now, this is coming from someone who was abused by her covert narcissist mother for decades. So I don’t particularly like it when people even “innocently” try to play on another person’s emotions in order to get the outcome they desire. In this case, guilt-tripping their child into visiting. Yes, I know. My opinion is likely not the popular one because there is a stigma against people who speak poorly of mothers. In my defense, we’re not all raised the same (with loving, supportive mothers/parents). Lucky for you, my mother isn’t your mother. Some of us grew up with another extreme entirely (chaos, threats, poverty, blame, mind-games, constant dismissal of our concerns, fears, safety, double-standards, etc.). It is more accurate to say, some of us ‘survived’ our childhoods and are doing the best we can to function as slightly hollowed out adults.