It took me decades to get out and away, and to realize exactly what type of abuse I was being subjected to. I knew something was seriously wrong; the gaslighting, smear campaigns, blatant favoritism of her sons over her daughters, the financial abuse, stonewalling, etc.. I only wish I had gotten out sooner, but my situation (as I'm sure everyone's is in their own way) was complicated. We grew up in abject poverty and chaos of her making. The moment I started making ANY money, she made a point to try to control it and me. She also used the relationship with our handicapped brother and his needs and care to keep all of us in line. We wanted to protect him from her and did the best we could for as long as we could.
Thanks for the share. It was well-written, and unfortunately accurate.