I’ve never understood WHY someone would react in such an awful way when receiving a polite decline. No, thank you” must translate to “FU” I guess. As a woman, a person, are not obligated to give him your number or have an instant connection or go on a date. Nor are you obligated in situation where you are walking down the street, minding you own business, required to stop and kindly chit chat. I want to be left the hell alone most of the time. But there was a period in my life, when I was young and naive, when men would stop me and insist I engage, often barraging me with red-flag questions like, “Where are you going?” Or “Can I walk with you” or make demands of my time and energy. Or trying to trigger reactions with statements like, “Can I have your number?” Or “Oh, you think you are too good for me, right?” I could be heading to work or out for exercise, but he wouldn’t care. Politely excusing myself and refusing further interaction, even kindly, often escalated into threats of violence and name calling. Why? Why do (entitled) guys think it is ok to call women names and be ugly just because I don’t want to stop and chat? You interrupted me as I was minding my own business and I didn’t want to engage.

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