My ex-husband was like this. The things he had epic reactions to were ludicrous. Having been raised by an abusive narcissist, I’m not surprised I married and later divorced one. I call him narc light, but he still had many of the same tendencies and behaviors (never taking responsibility or accepting fault with anything, fragile ego, etc).

Once, he wanted to go out to get something to eat. Nothing big, just picking something up nearby. Expecting me to pay for it, as usual, I said as much. “I don’t want to go out and spend the money.” He’d quit yet another good job because he hated that I outearned him and just wanted to stay home all day anyway. He was entitled; sponging off his elderly parents for everything when I would refuse. They enabled him by giving him money constantly. I dared to expect him to work. There was no reason for him to stay home. He was able and educated. He just didn’t want to. He sulked; made epic displays of child-like petulance for the rest of the day. A grown man pouting over going out to eat. Really?

Another time, I was offered a job and wanted to celebrate with friends. We all went out to eat, and once again he pulled his shitty pouting game. “Ho-hum” she worked hard for something and got it, so I need to shit all over it with people present so she’ll have to deal with it, attitude. Totally ruined the night. He wasn’t happy for me, didn’t love me, he just used me.

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