My mother is a covert narcissist. When I read this, I was like “YESSSSsss.” Anytime she could make something more expensive or more work for me, she did. She would go as far as hiding things (like bills & mail or tax statements), up to the point where I’d have to pay more to get whatever it was resolved. She tried to hide a jury notice from me once. I always had to be on top of my game; I wasn’t allowed to fail or do poorly. When I managed to meet the expectation, she would just treat me shittier and raise the bar even higher. Nothing was ever good enough. And the better, smarter, harder working you were, the worse she (and her flying monkeys and golden children) treated me. I have a younger brother, the golden child, who took on a lot of her worst narc traits. He was constantly passive-aggressively doing things to show me how entitled he was and how everyone else was beneath him. People are often amazed family would ever be so abusive, but it happens more than you realize.

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