My purpose isn't solely to be a mother (or a wife and mother combo). Women are entitled to the same life choice as everyone else. Socially, we're programmed from an early age to believe every women should want to be a mother. But that isn't true. Nothing wrong with it. Just means we have different things we want to do in life. We're not missing out. We're not broken or sad. We have other things to offer than just being a wife and or a mother.

Our choice is not better, just different. We are making the choice for OUR life. I'm not standing here giving you a lecture about your choice to be a parent. Blessed be. Happy for you. It would be nice if I got the same support instead of judgement and nasty side-eye.

I know plenty of men who are not fathers, have no interest in being fathers, and I don't hear a lot of people chastising them for aging into grey foxes (instead of old maids), seen as unattainable bachelors (instead of crazy cat ladies), who decided to focus on their own lives and careers vs having kids (because when women elect to do this we're seen as frosty and selfish). Always a double-standard.

And by the way, me having kids is my business. I'm going to be the one responsible for all of it. Not you. How about we just be happy and support the life-choices of others? Especially when their decisions are not hurting anyone.

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