Nope. Because he thinks of you as the fall-back girl, the one he can call whenever, hang out with on his terms, and do whatever to her and she’ll just come back all chill and smiley. No thanks.

Why do you think they love ’em young and naive? Because most of those adorable young ladies have yet to be as jaded or aware as those of us who show the scars of having dated a loser like this who thinks we should just be the cool girl. Being the cool girl is bullsh*t. He just wants a robot who likes everything he does and had no opinions or desires of her own. Why? Because it is easier than actually investing in another real person and wanting to give as good as they get it. They’d rather lay back and have her do all the work; jump through all the hoops in hopes he’ll come around, eventually.

Instead, these kinds of guys, are just wasting our time and patience. They don’t seem to care that they are wasting another person’s time. Sure, she stuck it out with you for 5 years, just waiting for you to man up and be the guy you pretend to be — leading her on with promises of commitment and love. Then you wonder why she’s pissed when you break up, saying things like, “You knew what I was.” Yeah, well, we’re taught from a young age to listen to what people say, not go by what they do. We need to start paying more attention to actions and our gut than we do their sweet hollow promises.

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