Not surprised. Disappointed. But I too have experienced many of the examples you gave in some degree: had to stop using my headphones in public, the being followed and pressured for my personal information; having men drive off the road and approach me as I walked for exercise, minding my own business; being treated like if I dared to head out of my home, I must be asking for attention and therefore must entertain any possible suitor who approached. Or threatened if I didn't.

F*, really? I was minding my own damn business. Ever think I just wanna go about my day without being stopped? To be left alone with my thoughts? That I have the right to say "no" or "not interested" and be free to go about my way without being threatened or touched?

And that right there is entitlement - where you are oblivious and unconcerned with how your treatment and actions will affect someone else because it is all about your feelings and your gains, not the discomfort your are putting on someone else. You are approaching someone on the street. How would you like it if it happened to you multiple times a day, and with each encounter, you were made to feel objectified and belittled? Or made to feel threatened into some awkward social submission of your personal life, else face the wrath of someone who could hurt you? Yeah, women have been killed for simply refusing a guys advances. This is the kind of nightmare situation we're trying to avoid.

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