Oh, we do. It is just off-putting to people and we're told it is an undesirable, unattractive quality for a woman to show her anger (even when we are justifiably upset). I've had to remind my SO "I'm allowed to be upset. This [insert] situation would piss off anyone," when he tries to urge me to 'let something go' or to 'calm down' or questions why I'm still preoccupied with [the upsetting situation]. I've had to do this even when I'm just stewing silently about it because it radiates off my skin and he is unnerved by my reaction. He verges on being almost toxic he is so positive, all the time. And he likes it when everyone around him stays in a positive mindset - because it is more productive and such. Yeah, well. Sometimes people are going to be upset, moody, disappointed, and angry. Those are all natural reactions. To tell people to bottle them up is unhealthy. I'm not going to plaster a fake smile on my face and pretend it's all okay. I'm too old for that sh*t.

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