Being overly responsible
Out of necessity, you took on some of your parents’ responsibilities. These may have been practical (like paying the bills) or emotional (like comforting your siblings when Mom and Dad fought). Now you continue to take responsibility for other people’s feelings or for problems that you didn’t cause.
The Good Men Project
Our abusive mother took advantage of this “struggle” by laying increasingly costly and difficult responsibilities onto her other children (like surrogate parents). We were expected to cover the needs of our younger siblings, covering the extra expense of bills and debts, even when they weren’t ours. And at one point, expected to supplement her income because she didn’t want to work anymore. She faked an illness (we were unaware) and used it as a means to financially abuse and manipulate her children; often pitting them against one another and controlling the narrative of all family discussions.