Put them on a reasonable monthly budget. Require them to meet with a financial planner. If they exceed their budget, they’ll need to deal with it not guilt trip everyone with tears. They did this, and while it’s wonderful she’s helping, how long do they expect her to supplement their lifestyle? Are they working? Did they file for foreclosure or bankruptcy? Do they have any retirement set aside? What parent thinks it’s ok to spend their child’s hard earned $ on expensive meals then tear up when they’re asked about extravagant spending? I think there is more going on here that isn’t being shared. I came from a household where my siblings and I were ultimately financially abused by our mother. She’s a covert narcissist and faked an illness (didn’t know at the time) for years because she didn’t want to work full time anymore. Pretended she was bad with money. Granted, I would have been happy to help a parent but she took it to an extreme and took from a greedy place; taking advantage of her children. So I’m just concerned about this situation because it doesn’t seem like her parents are all that concerned about being wiser with spending; getting defensive or holding others emotionally hostage when they try to address the problem of over spending.