Self-sufficient in a way they “they weren’t allowed to be” years ago (in terms of independence and money). Not that society embraces those of us living outside the box, but it has a harder time shutting us up or down.
I’m divorced. I have no interest at this point in getting remarried. It doesn’t have any quixotic appeal for me. I’m too seasoned to believe in the bullshit of romance. If I were single again (long-term partner and he has college-age kids) I would likely stay single. I am also child-free. It would be difficult to date someone who doesn’t have kids at this stage in my life. And while I treat his children well, I still don’t have any inclination to have any of my own. I figure And if I do find myself single, I’ll likely end up spending the rest of my years in a small, easy to keep clean place with a couple of cats, my plants, my books, my knitting, my computer — and that sounds ok with me. I’m not a wife or a mother. I’m not someone’s soul mate. I like my ME time and am never bored.