Thank you for reaching out. I'm very sorry to hear my experience resonated with you personally.

Yeah. I tend to explain my situation a lot these days, where I can. People need to know this sort of abuse exists and there are countless victims with invisible bruises and fragile esteem who are trying to find a way out or heal. It needs to be told as abusers love the burden of silence and shame their victims are often carry. I'm not going to be ashamed or embarrassed seeing as I have nothing to be ashamed of as a victim of domestic abuse (at the hands of my relatives). It is just unfortunate to have that sort of childhood and young adulthood. Took me years to finally embrace and accept what was happening and realize I was not responsible for changing it. I had been trying for years; the situation worsening with each passing year. I had to realize it was not my fault and I was not the bad guy. Simply getting out, going no contact, is often the only recourse with people who are abusive and refuse to accept responsibility and change.

Surprisingly, there are a couple of great groups on FB. One is daughters of abusive mothers (originally of narc mothers). I highly recommend you start there and join. They are a relatable and understanding group of women, all of varying ages, varying experiences (some still mired in the abuse, others no contact and recovering). You'd be amazed at how many of us there are. Most don't recognize narcissistic abuse at the hands of a parent, so it is hard to find others who can relate. This group does.

There is also a wonderful array of literature I've been working through these last few years. If you'd like any recommendations, but all means let me know.

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