Thankfully, yes. I was able to cut the purse strings (stopped paying their bills and covering for them financially every time they called for something) and told them to get out of my life. If they were unwilling to change (be healthy and adhere to normal boundaries, gee maybe cover a bill for a change instead of calling me all the time for $), than we didn't need to keep pretending we were 'family.' I went no contact. They weren't family. They were just abusive leeches who use and abuse people. I'm disgusted to be related to them and pleased they are now forced to take care of themselves. It sounds harsh, but after the decades of abuse I endured, I can only hope my abusive mother just gets older and sicker and more expensive for my golden child brother to care for. They deserve each other.

I am happier and healthier to have excised the toxic people from my life.

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