That’s is frustrating that you have to go to the point of white-lying your way out of an awkward social situation just to shut people down. Who is going to say anything nasty to a couple who can’t have them? Nobody. But if you are responsible, citing you’d prefer to grow your respective careers and don’t want to be having kids just because — you get the nasty side-eye and are almost bullied into having justify it. But whatever the reason, it’s never a satisfactory one, and everyone means well when they are trying to bully you into having kids when you don’t.