First of all they like to discredit the witness. They like to discredit you so that you don’t reveal your truth or so that maybe you’ll just be so ashamed and terrified that you won’t say anything, instead you’ll just swallow it all.
This is very accurate. You don’t really notice it is happening until you question the inconsistencies after the fact. And between kids and parents especially — kids just assume their parents are telling the truth about things. They don’t think their parents are flagrant, lying narcissists. The smear campaigns our mother spearheaded over the years — I have to admit — were pretty well orchestrated. But she did things like lie about a yet to be named illness that derailed her ability to work s regular job for 20 years, but she refused to take disability? She lied about bills she never paid that she saddled on other people to cover. She lied about slights that other people did that never happened. She went out of her way to impose double-standards on her kids, treating her daughters like garbage and her sons like kings.
For example. When my sister went off to college, she made up this elaborate story about how my sister was kicked out for having an affair with someone on the facility. I don’t believe now that actually happened. I think my sister just left college. My mother’s boss, who happened to be a good friend, fired her with just cause. My mother spun the dial and aired her friend’s business, whether it was true or not. She had another friend who I suspect stopped giving her money so she spun some pretty awful lies about her too. I don’t doubt she lied about the details surrounding my parents' divorce too. Too many lies; too many inconsistencies and it all tracks back to her eventually.