THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS!
No matter what I do, I am always the person who everyone interrupts when they feel like chit chatting or when they need something, even when it is obvious I am in the middle of something, zoned in, WITH MY headphones on (for example) or with my nose in a book/Kindle reading something. No amount of me mentioning this seems to get through and they do it regularly. Love my family, but Christ almighty it would be nice if people exercised a little situational awareness and respect for my personal time and noticed what I was doing BEFORE speaking up.
Love my partner, but he has a nasty habit of sensing when I've just turned on an audiobook or a podcast and then he begins talking. I have headphones in. I mean, it's like a child who only wants to talk to you when you are on the phone, you know? I don't mean to equate him to a child, it is just the timing (happens way too often to ignore). I will pause it, respond, wait a few minutes, and as soon as I get back into it, "Hey, honey...." I'll admit it, I get annoyed sometimes. I would hate to think he is doing this on purpose, in some passive-aggressive game or some bullshit. I think he is just socially awkward and sometimes blindly inconsiderate of my need for focus time.
On a 9-hour road trip, in the car, WITH HIS 2 teenagers, I was reading a book. It was not my job to entertain anyone, and yet every so often he'd chirp up and ask me about the book. I don't want to answer questions or have a conversation right then. I want to r-e-a-d the book.