…’t the only person in my life to set these ground rules. It happened a lot. It was drilled into me: Make me happy and I will give you my love and attention. Displease me and I will dismiss you. You will not exist to me.The Dark Side of Being a People Pleaser3.9K41Vanessa TorreMegan CharlesApr 11, 2019·1 min readThis type of abusive conditioning is what narcissistic parents do to their children. The children are raised to believe they are solely there to make their parents happy — no matter the cost to their self-esteem or needs.