We’ve stopped hosting much of anything since (blessedly) moving into a smaller house. This forces everyone who drops in to either stay in a hotel nearby or to hang for the afternoon and then leave before socializing becomes a landscape of emotional family drama tripwires. The last time my significant other’s relatives (as a large group) came to visit we had to resort to locking doors upstairs and lecturing two of their kids because they tried to set fire to something upstairs. They’re old enough to not be constantly supervised and to know better than to light something on fire. One doesn’t parent his child at all. He seems to enjoy leaving the task to the other adults within earshot. He'd rather play with his tablet. When we visit, we aim for day trips only. Any longer, and it can get tense. We try to eat before we go, to avoid the conflict surrounding food as his family has a host of dietary issues. While I appreciate the meals they make, they lack everything from eggs, salt, butter, gluten, onions, garlic, milk, etc… you get the idea. We take our own coffee, tea, snacks, and entertainment. Doing our best not to be burdens on our hosts.