…ess of helping him, I became aware that our views on financial responsibility are vastly different. For example, he’s making large monthly payments for his 17-year-old son to drive a newer SUV. When I suggested he trade the vehicle for an older compact car, he fought me, saying he doesn’t want to lose his son by taking away his car.
When did this shift happen? Meaning, when did it get to where it is now where kids are calling the shots and are completely spoiled with newer and better versions of things than what their parents grew up with? I see more kids driving way newer cars than they should be at their age. When I was growing up, I was lucky to have anything to drive. And I’ve paid for every car (payment, insurance, maintenance) I’ve owned. Mommy and daddy didn’t buy me one. Hell, my abusive family made it harder to get one because my narc mother insisted she should have access to my car when she had her repossessed. Apparently, I was the parent in that relationship. Anyway….
The man is getting a divorce. It would be logical to assume the son will need to either suck it up and get an older car or start taking over the car payment or insurance or something with a part-time job. There is nothing wrong with expecting a driving-age child to take on some of the cost-burden/responsibility. Or be ok with driving an older car.