Yeah, it is one thing to be there for family, every time they need something. It is another when you expect them to be there in return for you when you need them. Never once was my family there for me when I needed them to step up. I was expected to go above and beyond; to fix whatever the issue was and accept the responsibility when they didn’t. Not because they couldn’t, they didn’t want to. This scenario plays out from years of being conditioned by an abusive parent who is a narcissist. My golden child brother was also conditioned to take on those same narc tendencies and treated me like garbage. He thought he was a prince who was entitled to anything anyone else had. I was expected to sacrifice my well-being, peace of mind, happiness, money, energy. But when I needed a family member to step up, they reacted like petulant children, just as I predicted they would. Incredulous, entitled, demanding, ridiculing. You are better off tossing those toxic people out of your life, regardless of whether or not they share blood. As my attorney put it, sage given his 50+ years of practice, “Family are the worst. They’ll stab you in the front and then try to make you feel guilty about it.” I don’t feel guilty and I’m certainly happier not having them in my life. They weren’t there for me, so I’m not there for them.

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