Yeah, some of us elect to not be married or have kids because that is our life choice, not because we’re selfish, or immature, or reckless. It really is patronizing when people suggest you are not as “responsible” or as “adult” as they are when you are single and child-free (regardless of age). You don’t often hear people overtly criticizing guys who don’t want to get married or have kids. The older they are, the more ‘desired’ they become. The grey-fox who was never caught. Women, however, are branded as sad spinsters just biding their time with their educations, careers, pets, friends, her books or hobbies until ‘he, our prince charming, comes into our lives’ one day. Otherwise, she’s a poor, sad little thing who never found fulfillment. How is it people can’t get some of us ladies are good as we are? Really. No ring. I’m good. No kids of my own. Still good. And why do we sound like we’re overly protesting? Because you keep hammering into us there must be something wrong or we’re secretly sad we’re not married with kids. I could have been married 4x over and had a litter of kiddos by now. I just chose not to. It would have made me miserable. Nothing against anyone who wants marriage and children. It just isn’t what makes me feel happy or fulfilled. My life-choice is different (not better, or worse, just different than yours). Don’t take it personally that I want to do something else with my life and time.

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