Yes, well from experience, one of the big problems when you are the female primarily breadwinner, and the primary worker, the primary cleaner, errand runner, problem solver, and all around omnibus person of the household is after a while you wonder why you are with someone who, while they don’t earn as much as you, also don’t make any effort to make your life easier by doing the little things like cooking a meal sometimes or cleaning up after themselves. They expect you to still hold to certain traditional gender roles which leaves you doing essentially everything whilst they, after a long day of work, plob on the couch and start glad-handing their game controller while you do a few loads of laundry, dishes, tidy up, cook dinner, and make plans to hit the grocery tomorrow in between appointments. These are the same guys who also don’t get that wonderwoman also needs her sleep but insists she stay awake to make sure HIS needs are met first. Over time you start to look at your partner as more of a kid or dare I say a burden than you do a man because he’d rather game all day than apply any ambition or balance to the household by realizing he needs to take some of the weight off your shoulders.

Technophobe Who Codes | UX Generalist | Freelance Writer | Egalitarian-Feminist | True-Crime/Forensics Enthusiast

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